SO YOU WANT TO GET SOCIALLY NAKED? THEN READ AS KALUSNA ROSE STEPS INTO A NUDIST RESORT!
The real true social nudist, Kalusna Rose will explain what social nudism in America is all about. I am a dying breed of American's that enjoyed the total aspect of social nudity. Too me being naked socially is Nirvana. You just feel totally relaxed. Until somebody sits down next to you and lights up a cigarette and the smoke blows into your space. I love that my boobs can hang low and nobody cares. My "C" section scar is just like other women that have given birth in this fashion. My excess body fat is just that. I hate the gossip mongers. And I hate the walking drunks. I wish all the resort owners that believe clothing optional is the right path to take, wake up and sell their clubs to nudist that want only total nudity.
Not what social nudism has become today. Clothing Optionalism and a prejudice toward single men and women.
So rather than discover what you did not expect, now you learn here what may go on behind the gate of a nudist resort/club or nude beach, from the moment you leave your car at a resort or hit the hot sand at a beach, to the time you leave. You will learn the naked truth of what can take place during your visit. Not every nudist club or activity is like those mentioned below. You will find nudist clubs that are completely different from those experiences mentioned on this page. I have found that after a first visit to a nudist club/resort or beach the majority of first timers never return again. When questioned later they tell of what they really found and experienced on their visit. I feel that if you know before you go what you may find, you will be less surprised and know how to handle the situation. As awful as some nudist clubs may appear, the majority of true social nudist find their club and lifestyle acceptable. It is not the intention of this site to scare a first timer away. I feel you have a right to know what you may expect to find behind the gates and not just the propaganda presented by nudist clubs and nudist organizations.
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The map of the club in your hands, you discover that your resort or club is hidden away from prying eyes. Or perhaps your club is in the center of town. Hidden behind large fences to keep out visitors that don't belong. You arrive at the resort/club. Slowly you step out of your car and walk to the office. Don't be surprised to find the employees dressed. And don't go into shock when you find the employees or park guests naked. Every club has its own office-accepted policy of dress. If you are smart and understand the nature of the nudist movement in America today, you came with a member of the opposite sex. If not and you are a single male then you might find the next few minutes a trip into utter frustration. Many nudist clubs/resorts do not cater to single males. These clubs have a male/female couples only policy. Though, two single women will likely have no problem getting in a club. This attitude of no single males is a major topic at nearly every convention of nudist clubs in America. Single organizations like "Sun Singles" have appeared to help singles get into nudist clubs. Call a club and see if they have a Sun Singles group.
Single males can stand in disbelief as they are told they cannot take a tour of the club or join. Commonly explained by the office staff, "This is a family nudist resort and designed for couples. Come back with somebody of the opposite sex." And if you do, you will find your time at this club much more enjoyable. Don't despair if you are sent away. Find another club that will allow single males, or find a single female that is willing to take the nudist plunge with you.
In the office you will be asked to fill out a questionnaire. Common questions are name, address, phone, drivers license number and what brought you out to this club. After filling out the form your drivers license may be copied. Some clubs will use the CD-ROM program of sex offenders/pedophiles listed in nationwide data on the disk. If your name is on the CD-ROM, you will not be allowed into the club. If you pass the CD-ROM then you may be asked to be interviewed by a member of the club. This interview will take place before you are given a tour of the club. You will be asked numerous questions about your intentions. Not to worry. These questions are just designed to find out whether you are at the resort for the right reason. Nudist Resorts are family oriented clubs. The management only wants to make certain that you understand the true purpose of social nudism and are not there for the wrong reason. The cost of your first time visit can vary from club to club. It is not uncommon to find a first time couple can get in for free on their first visit. Daily visits for non-members can be from three dollars to as much as fifty depending on the club. Check the Internet site for the club you plan to visit. Many clubs have Internet coupons for a free visit. Some clubs offer rebates on your daily rate if you join as a member that day (if allowed) Most clubs have a minimum visit requirement until membership is required. Club memberships can vary in range from fifty dollars per year up to the hundreds. With each club offering various benefits for membership. Just like a country club, nudist clubs/resorts live and die by its members. Membership in clubs has it advantages over per visit fees. If you plan to visit nudist club at least ten-twenty times per year, then membership is the best deal. Most clubs accept credit cards.
The majority of clubs have a form of hospitality tour. These can come in all forms. Some clothing optional clubs give these tours while your dressed. Nude only clubs prefer to give the tour in the nude. You will be asked to follow your hospitality host or hostess to restrooms or a convenient spot to undress. This may be at your car, a restroom or a special place set up for new guests. Showing that you can be naked in front of others is not as shocking and difficult as most make it to be. You just do it quickly and don't think about it. Hospitality hosts are accustomed to first timers apprehension. If you just can't do it, then tell them of your concern. It's not a terrible thing to ask to leave the grounds. You can always come back when you're ready. If you are at a clothing optional club, then wearing some type of pool clothes in the recreation areas is sometimes permitted. Many clothing optional clubs only allow clothing outside the recreation areas. Nudism is normally a major part of the recreation area: pool, tennis courts, grass area and areas where the majority of nudists go to soak up the sun and play sports. Outside the recreation areas clothing is permitted. On your tour you may not go into the recreation area if you are clothed. After your tour, you can then undress and enter these areas.
If you are on a nude tour, then you will need to bring shoes and a towel along on your walk. Nudists tend to wear shoes of some type. Sandals or beach shoes. Tennis players can be seen wearing the normal court shoes.
You may take a golf cart ride at some clubs. Traveling along the outer routes of the club. If it is a nude only club, then you will sit on your towel while you travel the grounds. The tour hosts will point out facts about the club and see how you respond to your new experience. Gawking is never allowed and an occasional peek at somebody's body is normal and is accepted. It might be advisable to wear sunglasses if you think you might be embarrassed on your tour and you don't want your eyes to tell of your feelings.
Some clubs are large and your tour may show you all the outlining areas of interest. It's common to find people living year round at nudist clubs. Residences can be trailers of every shape and size. Park model mobile homes are a type of structures that is a regular sight at clubs. These portable homes have all the features of permanent structures at a fraction of the cost. These are private homes and it is not proper to go up to somebody's home unless invited. Don't be afraid to ask questions on your tour. Your hosts want you to ask questions. Resorts rely on membership for their survival. Clubs want you to join and become an active part of the nudist community.
Clubs have different food facilities. Some have permanent restaurants that are open year round. While others offer food facilities open during the main visitor time of the year. Call ahead or bring meals to make certain you enjoy your stay with a happy stomach. Check out clubs facilities on the Internet at the individual clubs website or go to the AANR website or TNS for links to clubs around America.
A limited number of clubs offers community kitchens. Fully stocked eating areas with everything available to prepare meals. You will find, stoves, microwaves, refrigerators, BBQ's, eating utensils and tables. Weekday disposal of refrigerator items is common at these community kitchens to make certain the facilities are maintained for the following weekend crowds. It's normal practice to find you are invited to a dinner at somebody's table. Nudists are very friendly, social folks and like a good conversation at dinnertime.
Everybody has been to a place a one time or another when you bring along an ice chest full of drinks, food and snacks. Your first visit to a nudist club or beach might be the right time to pack ahead until your familiar with the facilities.
Your tour guides show you the unique features of their resort. General Stores are very common. Bookstores and hand me down shops where the club can earn extra money are found. You might find a softball field with bleachers. From its earliest days in the United States, social nudists have a common bond with the game of baseball. Many clubs invite teams from the textile world to come onto the grounds and play the local nudist team in a friendly game of ball. European games have found their way into the states. Pentangue, Bocce Ball or lawn bowling is a sight often seen around grass areas of clubs and at the beach. Volleyball is another familiar sight at nudist clubs. Teams travel from club to club to compete in the summertime. You might check out: www.nakedvolleyball.com, and their website if your interested in a travel club of volleyball players. On your tour you will see basketball on hard courts. Tether ball for the young and old. Swings and sandpits for the kids are at nearly every club. Lovely grass areas for just resting under the sun or hiding under a tree are seen everywhere. Horseshoes and shuffleboard have been long term social activities for nudists.
Along your tour you will pass nudists enjoying their stay at their club. These folks will smile and wish you a good day. You will never find more friendly people anywhere you travel. Social nudists enjoy life and saying hello to everybody. By this time you are likely to be overwhelmed with the sights and sounds of your tour. Your tour guide has been talking non-stop pointing out all the aspects of the club you need to be aware of. You will remember a few things after the tour and fill in the parts you forgot with others later during your stay.
Depending on the club your tour will eventually near an end. Your tour/hospitality hosts will wish you a nice time at their club and now you will be able to take part in anything you wish. If you are lucky you may find an open deck chair by the pool. Beware, that this is the first thing to go in the early morning at most clubs during the summertime. If you want to lie by the pool on a chair, then you might want to prepare ahead of time by bringing your own lounge chairs. A short trip back to your car and you will have what you need. You may decide to just bring towels and lay on the fresh cut grass. Take a walk around the recreation area and discover the joy of being naked and how others are not even aware of your nakedness.
Take your towel along and wear a pair of sandals or clodhoppers. When you decide to sit on any public spot you need to lay your towel down. Anyplace where you sit you need to make certain you're on a towel or appropriate covering. You need to take a shower before entering any place with water. Your towel can be used to dry you off after using the pool or hot tub or shower. Co-ed showers are found at most clubs. You will find men and women showering together. Nearly all clubs have a private shower or two around the grounds that are for one person. In the morning or late at night you may find people in the showers shaving. Shaving can be men's beards and head. Men commonly shave their pubic zone, as do women. Today in nudist clubs it is not uncommon to find men and women that enjoy the benefits of shaved pubic areas. Hair has a tendency to block the sun and prevents a total tan. And with the changes in bathing suits at the beach, women and men find that having no hair fits better in their choice of garments. More and more people in the textile world are now shaving because of "thong" bikinis. So, pubic hair shaving is not so alien anymore.
Men always have the same question regarding social nudity: What do they do if they get an erection? If this does occur then you have your towel to cover up until you go flaccid. Social nudists will tell you over an over again that this occurrence is seldom seen at nudist locations. If anything, men find their penis shrinks and they seldom find nakedness sexual in nature. It is the personal belief of many members of clubs that are in law enforcement that if everybody in the world were naked, and then crime would decrease by over ninety percent. Sexual crimes would drop as well as violent crime and drug use would drop because of the visual aspect of the naked body.
At nudist clubs and the beach you see every body shape possible on a human being. Skinny people, overweight individuals, the fit and the unfit. In the textile world it is the common misconception that all nudists are like men out of a men's magazine like GQ or women are like the models in Playboy. This is the inside joke at nudist clubs. For the average nudists look like your neighbors or friends or business associates. The public as seen in America. A cross-reference of every body shape known on Earth. You see men with implants for sexual dysfunction. Women with breast implants and women with no breasts due to mastectomies or injuries. Scars from every type of surgery. Amputated arms, legs, fingers, are everywhere on any given day at the beach or a club. Women that have had babies and could not lose the baby fat or the stretch marks are common. Large breasts that make these women uncomfortable in a bathing suit make them perfect candidates to social nudism. For women love to say, "You will never catch me in a bathing suit again. Before becoming a nudist I hated my body. Now, I like me for what I have and know that nobody criticizes me for my body or laughs out loud like they do at the beach."
Many clubs have hiking trails. Bring some excellent walking shoes and go for a stroll. Bring water as the heat can make you sick if you don't drink plenty of fluids.
Within seconds you will realize that social nudity is not sexual in nature. People are normal in their behavior and do not have sex on the grass, in the pool or in their lounge chairs. It is a family oriented place where the facade of clothing is gone and everybody is just who he or she are, not what they have. Sure, nudists have sex. They have sex where textile people have sex. In their homes, in trailers or their tents. They just don't do it out in the open. Nudism is not a sexual activity. If anything it is the opposite. Clothing causes sexual fantasy and the lack of clothes cause men to talk to women's eyes not their breasts. Sure people look at others bodies. They just don't do it in a blatant nature. Gawking and staring is not acceptable at nudist clubs. A glance is all right. Nudists are told over and over again to report to management behavior inappropriate in nature. Clubs cater to families and do not want the wrong information taught to the children.
Some very small clubs do not have the personnel or members to offer tours. You pay at the gate and away you go. You will likely drive your car into the main grounds, park and then realize you have no idea what to do next. GET NAKED! At your car you can undress and leave your textile world clothes in the safety of your car. Grab your towel, shoes and food and wander into the recreation area. You will likely find many people naked sitting around the pool. Watching tennis and just enjoying the sun. Stand for a moment and decide where you want to go enjoy your visit. If you sit under the trees on the lawn you will likely be left alone to read or enjoy the peace and serenity of a nudist club. If you sit next to another couple, instantly you will find yourself in a conversation. First exchanging names. Your first name is normally the only name you need to give out. Unless you're a famous person or a well-known name in your town and you want your new friends to know what you like to do on your day off.
Read the brochure the front office gave you that tell of the various club offerings. It will have a map that shows the grounds and this will give you the confidence to take a walk and enjoy the clubs features. SMILE at those you pass along your walk. And remember to take your towel. If you find the hot tub, step inside and feel the greatest experience of your adulthood. Hot water against a naked body. No bubbles in bathing suit or wet materiel against your delicate flesh.
Take a dip in the outdoor pool. If a water volleyball game is taking place, see if another player is needed. Players will likely shout for you to come inside the pool. Within minutes you will learn the rules and begin to have more fun then you could remember since childhood. If you brought your children with you, keep an eye on them. They may begin to have so much fun; they won't ever want to go home. Kids seem to find other kids and make friends long before their parents. Few children have problems at clubs when playing with other kids.
Drink plenty of water if it is extremely hot or your first trip to the sunshine in many months. We recommend drinks like Powerade and Gatorade to restore electrolytes. Water alone just does not seem to work. If you play tennis, make sure you drink between games or at the normal breaks. Volleyball players drink plenty of fluids because of the strenuous way they play.
Your towel is your safety valve in case you need it. Men that worry about erections have a way to cover up their embarrassment. Women that should suddenly find them selves needing cover up protection have it in their hands. Seldom do you find men with sexual reactions to nudity. Social nudity has the opposite effect on men. Men cannot believe that so many naked women can be around them and they do not get aroused. This is one of the great misconceptions of social nudity. Outside nudist clubs, the textile world assumes that if women or men are naked, then the opposite sex will automatically become aroused. Ten minutes into a visit for a first time visitor deflates (humor) preconceived ideas about social nudity.
When the time finally arrives when you have to leave just reverse your steps. Gather up all your things and head to your car. Get dressed and find your way to the exit gate. If you rented anything at the office, you will need to return it. If you were given the gate key to exit then just enter the code into the gate reader and instantly the gate will open. Or you will have to manually open the gate to exit. It all depends on the club. Remember to close the gate behind you and drive safely home.
Thanks for taking the time to read about getting socially naked.
NIGHT THEME PARTIES
The first club sponsored nudist theme party I went to was an evening I will remember forever. No body told me ahead of time what a theme party consisted of. So, I went to this party without a clue of what to expect. It was a Valentine party on a cold night in February. Valentines is a day for lovers. I guessed the theme would be that of lovers. You know, like Adam and Eve, Romeo and Juliet and all those other lovers of time.
The club had a band scheduled to play. And no, the band cannot go naked. Laws prevent entertainers from performing naked. I decided to just show up in a pair of sweats and see what happened. To my surprise I was one of the few to show up not dressed up in full costume. People in the textile world assume that nudists always go naked. This is just not the case. Nudists love to get dressed up for parties. They will make their own outfits or go to the local costume rental shop. Details are very important as most clubs have contests for the best costume and couples costumes. Other prizes may be given for various categories.
Everywhere I turned people were dressed in outfits that would have made Hollywood proud. As a nudists anything can be shown in a costume. Breasts are exposed as well as penises. It all depends on the costume and what the person is trying to represent. French maids and their lovers. Romeo and his Juliet. Prostitutes and their Johns. Married wives and husbands. Tom Cruise and Nicole. President Clinton and Monica or (Hillary). It is all in jest and for everyone that goes to a theme party they will have fun.
The band plays and everyone sits around and dances as they wish. Theme parties are meant to entertain and that they surely do. The bands love to play at nudists clubs because so many people love to dance. As the evening moves on, nudists can do whatever they wish at a theme dance. Some just get naked if its weather permitting. And for some, it does not matter what the weather is like. They just like to get naked and dance. Though some clubs do not allow nude dancing and this prevents nudity at nighttime theme parties or just normal weekend band dances. Personally, American Nudist feels that a nudist club that does not allow nighttime dancing in the nude is not really a nudist club. Nudist clubs should be places where nudists can go to be naked twenty-four hours a day. Putting restrictions on nudity at dances just does not make sense. Nudists have been dancing nude at dances for nearly a hundred years. Only recently clubs have decided that nude dancing is wrong.
You can go to a theme dance and not be in costume or fitting the theme. It is your choice and no body will hold you at bay for not coming in theme. It is more fun to just enjoy the moment in theme if possible.
Halloween is the nudists biggest theme party. I have been to quite a few Halloween nudist parties over the years and this day is my favorite. Nudists costumes are the most original I have ever seen. And again with nudity a factor in a costume design you can be as original as you care to be. I have been to parties where no nudity exist and others in warm weather areas with twenty percent of costumes painted on naked flesh. Nudity is not sexual and using a naked body as a backdrop for a costume does not have to be sexual in nature. It just adds to the fun time of the holiday or party.
So, if you decide to go to a nudist theme party plan ahead. Ask to see photos of prior parties to get an idea what to expect. Whatever you wear you will certainly have a great time.
Every nudist organization in America preaches how social nudism is a family activity. Families are welcome at nudist resorts. Photographs in brochures and websites, depict the wholesome atmosphere of nudism. Mothers holding young children. Fathers playing tennis with their kids. The naked facts of social nudism discussed here will anger any nudist organization but we feel parents need to know the truth of what happens behind the fences.
Nudist clubs welcome husbands and wives. They love to see couples bring their children. Children of all ages are welcome to enjoy the activities at the club. What most clubs’ offer is the safety of the family when the children stay near their parents. From the age of birth to ten or twelve children tend to stay within the eyesight of their parents. As children grow older they begin to have their own regime at their nudist club. Parents lose their protective nature and allow their kids to run wild around the safety of the club. Children find other children to play with away from the eyesight of their parents.
Parents know the parents of the children their child plays with and feels secure in the knowledge that at the club their children are safe. Usually this is a true belief. Unfortunately, not all clubs offer the same level of security. Nudist clubs are just one big baby sitter. Parents come to the club and let their kids find their own form of entertainment. These are good parents. Parents that will tell you they are good parents. They house their children. They educate and feed their kids. What they do not watch for are the problems at nudist clubs that seldom anyone will discuss because of the wrong stigma this presents on the nudist movement.
At the five clubs visited in the last year we found the same problem prevalent at all the clubs. Children older than twelve were found wandering the nudist parks and spending time with their peers. These were children of nudist parents. Parents off doing what they come to the club for and leaving their non-nudist children alone until wanted.
Kids were found smoking cigarettes with other kids. Kids were found drinking beer with other kids and smoking illegal drugs. Drugs in many cases owned by the parents and found by their children. Now these drugs were shared by the group. Kids were caught watching pornographic videos in the permanent sites or trailers of one of the kid’s.
The majority of older kids were just wandering the parks trying to pass the time until it was time to leave. These kids would not get naked, even those that were raised nudists. Because the older boys and girls would not get naked, the younger kids follow along. These are children of parents that are good parents. Parents that will tell you to your face that you have no right to criticize their parenting skills. These are parents of the sixties and seventies and eighties that bring their children to the nudist club to get away from the textile world. Unfortunately these parents bring the problems of the textile world onto the grounds of the club. These same parents are shocked to learn their children smoke cigarettes and have been smoking at the club with the older kids for years.
At one club a young person started to smoke cigarettes because she wanted to work in the club restaurant and all the employees and owners smoked. She figured that if she wanted to work in the restaurant she would have to smoke to get the job. She was right. Now, at the age of seventeen she is one of the summer time workers sitting in front of the restaurant at break smoking her two packs of cigarettes a day. She will tell you how great it is to be with the other workers. Her childhood dream comes true.
Over the last eighty years nudist clubs have been faced with sexual predators. When caught they’re immediately told to leave. Unless they happen to be in the management of the club. These people stay until something changes their status. Fortunately this is not a problem at nudist clubs, but it has been found to occur on various clubs around the United States over the years. Most clubs will not tell you most of its members ogle the naked body. Adults of all ages will not admit their fascination with young people. We have seen often adults watching the activities of young people. Clarifying what is normal is impossible and that of abnormal behavior. So, clubs do not want to discuss this issue. Since everybody does it, it is considered okay.
Few clubs have daylong activities to entertain the kids. On special weekends you may find jumping balloons or games scheduled. Once these activities end, the kids are back to the same dilemma of finding things to do. Those kids that will get naked have the recreation area to play. One mother told me of her frustration when she was finally able to get her fourteen-year-old daughter to get naked again (the child was raised a nudist from birth). And then this happened: Her daughter was playing in the pool when a teenage boy dressed in shorts and a T-shirt came into the recreation area. He sat watching the young woman in the pool swimming naked. No, one approached the boy to tell him he could not be dressed in the nude only recreation area. The young woman felt uncomfortable with the boy watching her and jumped out of the water. She grabbed her towel and ran to her trailer. She dressed and told her mother she would never come back again and get naked. The club management just shrugged their shoulders and said she would get over it.
Club management's says things are changed today. Telling a child to get naked can be accepted by the textile world as child abuse. Many parents and management of clubs are allowing children to be clothed anywhere around the club. At some clubs anyone telling these children to leave the recreation area is being classified, "Perverts" by members. Women accuse men of wanting to see little girls or boys naked. Long term nudists are in disbelief of the way social nudism is changing. Calling a social nudist a pervert because they do not want clothed individuals in the recreation area. The area of the club where they do not permit clothing of any type. This is ludicrous. A nudist club is for nudists. Why do these clubs now allow clothing to be worn?
Social nudism in America is changing and if not reverted back to its grassroots is not likely to survive. Parents and club management must no longer allow children to dictate the nudist clothing rules.
Nudist beaches in most states are unauthorized for nude sunbathing. In San Diego nudity is no longer tolerated at the city's portion of Black's Beach in La Jolla. The city of San Diego agreed that going nude will mean a citation and a $135 dollar fine. This was brought about because of one woman's complaint about male exhibitionism harassing women and families. The city of San Diego has not considered policing its side of the beach a priority until now. Three agencies govern the popular nude beach in La Jolla. Because a few consider nudism and nude beaches sexual playgrounds real nudists will be hurt. Nudists began using these out of the way dunes, rocky ridged spots or hard to get to hideaways to enjoy the pleasure of sunning in the nude. Over time other nudists follow the crowd and soon you have an unofficial nude beach. Depending on the law enforcement policies the nudists are arrested, given a warning or left alone. In California the main nude beaches are on State owned land. Blacks Beach and San Onofre are two beaches that allow nude sun bathing even though it is violating the law.
Make certain you have everything you need for an outing to the beach; suntan lotion, water, cold drinks, ice food, hats, chairs, towels and a beach blanket, sunglasses, walking shoes and beach shoes. Take along a book, radio and sports gear. Sand Volleyball is very popular on most nude beaches. A good pair of tennis shoes or bare feet is common footgear. Depending on the beach, you will likely have no restroom facilities available. You have to use the ocean for your potty spot. Take along toilet paper just in case.
You may have a short walk to the beach or a long trek. Be prepared and expect the worse case scenario. Find a beach driveable wagon to carry your things and you will enjoy the trip to the beach more enjoyable.
Along the way you will may find people naked in designated nude areas. Do not get naked at your car unless you're in a nude authorized area. When you find a location you want to call your area for the day, lay out your blanket and get naked. On a clothes optional beach you will find every type of dress. Full bathing suits, half suits and total nudity are the norm. Since there is no official rules for a nude beach, anything goes in the way of nudity.
Most nude beaches have its regulars. Those folks that prefer the freedom of a nude beach over a club or resort. Nudists that make a regular trek to their favorite nude beach to see old friends and take part in the weekend activities. During the week most nude beaches are deserted. Except in areas where the summertime weather brings out throngs of nudists seven days a week. When the weather turns cold then warmer places are chosen.
Drink plenty of liquids during your stay at the beach. Make certain foods are kept cold after you reach the beach. Just a few hours in the hot sun can cause foods to spoil. Prepare ahead by bringing an ice chest that can survive the hot sun and keep your food and drinks cold.
If you have never played sand volleyball before then it is recommended you observe the experienced players before attempting to play. Learn the rules of play and then attempt to get into a game. Nudists are the friendliest folks you will ever meet and always welcome new players. Ask before you attempt to enter a new game if it all right to join in.
Go for a nude walk along the beach. Throw a Frisbee or play catch with a ball. Don't be afraid to walk away from your things. It is recommended you take your valuables on your walk. Nudists are not normally into stealing others things, but this is a public nude beach and you don't know every ones reasons for being at the beach. Don't ruin your weekend by having your valuables stolen.
Do not get sun burnt. Wear protective sunscreen, a hat and a shirt if necessary, if you plan to be in the sun for a prolonged period of time. Just a few minutes in the sun can cause severe burns. Build up gradually to the sun over the summer. One day in the sun will likely give you a memory you would wish you never had. These following guidelines are published by The Naturist Society:
Appropriate Behavior at Clothing-Optional Beaches
OVER THE YEARS practical guidelines of good sense and courteous behavior have emerged which encourage everyone to have a nice day at a clothing-optional beach.
Please respect and practice the etiquette:
STAY OUT OF DUNES and other environmentally sensitive areas.
OBEY PARKING REGULATIONS and other posted rules.
HELP WITH LITTER by bringing along a trash bag. Carry out more than you brought in.
DON'T GO OUT OF ESTABLISHED NUDE AREAS. To wander nude in a clothed beach or parking area will offend many. It undermines our objectives.
NO OVERT SEXUAL ACTIVITY. Leave exhibitionism to those attending clothed beaches. Nude is not lewd, but combined with sex, undermines our image.
RESPECT THE PROPERTY OF OTHERS.
ASK PRIOR CONSENT FOR PHOTOGRAPHY. People can't legally be stopped from taking pictures in public areas. However, asking permission is common courtesy. Not everyone wants to end up in a stranger's photo album. Parents should also be asked before children are photographed.
PRIVACY IS FUNDAMENTAL! Many are at the beach for quiet time and don't want to be disturbed. Beach Romeo's and Juliet's are people who can't take "No, I would like to be left alone" for an answer. It is not wrong for a man or woman to go to the beach to make new friends - but it is rude to monopolize a person's time when the welcome mat was never put out.
COME PREPARED. Bring beach supplies: beverage, food, chair, sunscreen and towel. Don't expect others to share these items. Mooching is offensive.
SPEAK UP FOR STANDARDS. If a person seems unaware of beach etiquette, explain it, kindly and plainly. Give them a copy of "Appropriate Behavior." Don't let uncouth individuals ruin our fragile and beautiful place under the sun!
PROBLEM AREAS-SWINGERS
Our society is full of individuals that want to be different. Different in their lifestyles and the way they live and act in this world. Nudist Resorts/Clubs are no different in the type of person that is drawn to this lifestyle. Everyone has various reasons in wanting to go naked in a social atmosphere. Anytime within the walls of a social nudist club you will find men and women that want to experience nudism for their own purpose.
I have found couples that just want to be around others that share in the enjoyment of nudism. Other couples that want to spend time together and just be left alone to enjoy the sunshine. Couples that want to find other couples to socialize within a non-sexual nature. Then there are the couples that are Swingers and wish to find couples to share in their lifestyle. It is this last group that gives social nudism its bad reputation. Various nudist clubs around the United States cater to Swingers. Under the guise of a nudist social club, these folks live their fantasies by this sexual choice. They attempt to recruit others by inviting them to parties or over for dinner. Parties at private homes where everyone can get naked. Those that want to partake in the social activities may and those that just want to watch are invited to do so. Parties can last well into the night and early morning. This is not social nudism and what it attempts to represent. Yet, this lifestyle has made its way onto the living grounds of nudist clubs and management of these clubs has become sterile in their attempts to end this activity. Couples that are confronted by these people need only tell them "No" and this should be the end of it. Unfortunately, a few seem to feel they have the right to ruin others enjoyment and no one is going to stop them. At many clubs they’re right. And at other clubs the memberships of these individuals are terminated and they’re never to return again. This is a self-police act that varies from club to club.
More nudist clubs have become places for singles to search out partners. As a whole this is like the bar scene of the seventies and eighties and the gyms of the nineties. Singles that want to meet partners go where singles are and frequently this is nudist clubs. With the ratio of men to women well more than one to three or four depending on the club, it is the woman that has the greatest choice available. Men seem to pounce on a single woman when they appear at a club. A female friend of mine last weekend was shocked when she showed up at her club without her regular boyfriend and four men propositioned her. Two of the men were married. One man stating that since she did not come with her boyfriend, then they must be having problems and she is now fair game. When she informed them her boyfriend has business and was out of town, these men asked her to have sex since she was available. She could not believe the assumptions these men had because she chose to go to the club alone. This is one example of the problem of social nudism today.
Club management knows this problem to exist and will not do anything about it. They just sweep the issue under the proverbial rug. Men flock to nudist clubs in numbers far exceeding that of women. Men at these clubs seem to feel that just because a woman is naked, she says that she wants sex. Where this thought comes from is beyond any ones comprehension. It is a value system instilled in men and crosses no barriers. I have noticed recently at our club that men from different countries like the Middle East nations, seem to feel what is acceptable in the Middle East is acceptable in the United States. Men control women 100% and when they want a woman, she must respond. Mexican men that use Machismo in their country come to America and believe they can be powerful males here and women will respond to their wishes. Nudist clubs are not immune to the lack of a common sense necessary in everyday living. Women have to assert themselves when confronted by this type of men and immediately report them to the club management. The only way to make nudist clubs safe for singles is to weed out the problems.
Nudist Clubs are trying to prevent sexual predators from getting onto the grounds. In the textile world and the nudist world this is a real problem facing all sectors of our society. Sexual predators are found everywhere. Brothers molest siblings. Uncles molest nieces and nephews. Fathers molest their children. Mothers have been known to molest their children. Stopping every instance of sexual activity is impossible and nearly impossible to catch it in action. In the last seventy years nudism has had it share of scandals because of sexual behavior at its clubs. Single individuals work their way onto the grounds of clubs and until caught get away with their behavior. You cannot criticize social nudism because of the problems of a few. You have to find better ways of preventing these problems from getting onto the grounds.
Social nudism overall is a wonderful lifestyle and is faced with the same problems as the textile world. It is the people that make social nudism what it is and the actions of a few should not be used to critique the many.
SMOKING AND ALCOHOL
Somebody once asked me what the people were like that are nudists. I thought about the question and knew the standard reply given by nudist organizations and clubs/resorts. They are just like your neighbors, friends, business associates and relatives. Then I gave them my answer. Well, have you ever been to Las Vegas or Atlantic City? Did you notice the people in the casinos that sat around the poker tables? They all seem to have things in common. They smoke. They drink alcohol and they have the attitude that soon they will hit it big. That is what the average nudist is like. They love to smoke. They love to drink alcohol and they believe that the sun will not hurt them or they will ever get ill from their vices.
More than fifty percent of nudists smoke, and I mean smoke. They smoke holding their children. They smoke when their children or others are around. They will come sit next to you at the pool and light up. If you are allergic to tobacco smoke then you are at the wrong place. Sit on the grass and sure enough a smoker will find your peace and tranquility and light up. They will even offer you one, because nudists are friendly folks. They will likely have a cooler filled with beer or blended drinks and offer you one. It may not be your brand, but if you are a beer drinker you will be in seventh heaven. Nudists love to drink cold beer on hot days and cold days.
I have not been to a single nudist club where smoking was considered unacceptable. Few clubs look at smoking as a harmful act. Second hand smoke may cause cancer and kill but to the social nudist smoker it is one of life’s great pleasures. Telling a smoker to please put out their cigarette is just not good nuding behavior. You can talk to your management about this subject at a club. When the management person lights up while your pleading your case do not get frustrated. You have been forewarned. The bottom line is nudist clubs are afraid of losing members if they get tough on tobacco. Nudism is a blue collar majority lifestyle. Unless individual states alter the smoking rules, nudist clubs will continue to cater to smokers.
In California it is illegal to smoke indoors. So, you will find a few areas where tobacco smoke is absent. What you will find is right outside the open doors of these places smoke will drift inside to cause you utter frustration. Again, little can be said.
Outdoors the management of clubs will tell you smoke rises and it should not be considered a problem. So, club management allow smokers to ruin the peace and harmony of nonsmokers at the pool or nearly anywhere at their club. I have heard so many complaints from nonsmokers over the years and watched numerous nonsmoker fail to return to the club or renew their membership because of the lack of concern for their health or the health of their children. Nudist clubs are supposed to be family oriented. Teaching children to smoke and drink is not healthy or a family function. Unless you are the type of member catered to at nudist clubs. Social nudism management really does not want the younger family members at its clubs. It tells you to bring your kids, but does everything to corrupt these children to accepting the vices of adults.
If you fit these requirements then you will have plenty of fun at nudist clubs. You can get snockered on the weekends. You can smoke, dance, drink and be merry to forget the textile world. Forget your cares and come party with others that want to hear your story. Tell them how you hate your job or what your health is like. Take a sip of beer and puff on a cigarette. You have found your perfect peace. Nudist clubs will be your weekend getaway and you will meet plenty of new friends before you can say, "Pass me a cold one!"
If you are not a smoker, drinker or party’er do not fret. For nudist clubs have plenty of members that want something different and find normal ways to entertain themselves without getting stone faced drunk. Quickly you will find these folks and surround yourself within the elements that you are comfortable with. You can talk about the problems at the club with others that have your same values. For nudist clubs offer anything for everybody. They are weekend getaways for anyone that just wants to get away from the textile world for a few days or hours.
CLUB GOSSIP & POLITICS
Nudist clubs can be a place to have excellent conversations with others that have the same interest. You can sit in the Jacuzzi sipping on wine or a cola discussing everything from the President of the United States to what type of diapers to use on your newborn. The group of nudists sitting in the tub can be having five or six different discussions going on at once. You will hear laughter and arguing at a moments notice. Then the shock will settle in the next day when somebody confronts you and accuses you of saying something.
Then the owner of the club asks you to come to their office. There they tell you that they have filed complaints against you for things you said in the hot tub. You stand in disbelief at the words entering your ears. Ten years of being a nudist at this club and somebody accuses you of saying something wrong. You ask who said these things? And are told that the person name is confidential. Your accuser stays anonymous and they ruin your reputation at the club. One person spreads vicious rumors about you and soon mass hysteria finds its way to the management of your club. You are no longer welcome at this nudist club.
If you believe you have constitutional rights inside a nudist club you are wrong. You have no rights. The club management and members control your right to be at the resort. Do or say one thing that is not acceptable and you are gone.
We have heard about this problem from club members all around the United States. One person begins a rumor and soon it is blown out of proportion. The blue collar members of nudist clubs have changed the way clubs operate and deal with members or guests. Club management is not in tune with finding out the truth behind rumors and accusations. Removing a member is easier then getting to the bottom of the truth.
One club is infected with a member that every weekend begins vicious rumors about a member. This woman is married to a very popular member and neighbor to the owner of the club. Six club members have been forced to leave the club because of the delusions of this woman. They have filled our mail with stories about this club and the questions why they allow this to continue. It is due to the owner of the club. A club reflects its management or owner.
There are all forms of management and ownership of nudist clubs and their related functions. Single ownership is one type. One person owns the club and the land it sits on. Another type is the owner that leases the land from someone and has a long-term lease. They run and control the nudist club on the property, knowing the land owner has no say in how they manage the club. Then you have the absentee owner. They own the land and allow a resident manager to run the club on a daily basis. With many older clubs losing their owners to death, they are passing down these clubs to the heirs. Heirs that have no interest in the nudist clubs their relatives founded. These heirs turn over the daily running of the club to a manager or management team. Some clubs have the owner living on the grounds and the daily activities controlled by a manager. Then there is the member owned clubs. The members own these clubs. Usually a member of a club must join the corporation of the club. This allows them one vote and they can run for the board of directors of the corporation. Many of these clubs have a resident manager hired to run the club on a daily basis and report directly to the corporation.
The inherent problem with corporations is "egos" of the corporation officers. Since elections of officers find the popular members elected, rather than the most qualified, you have officers that may not be the best person for the position. In politics "Power Corrupts" and this is very often seen with the officers of a corporation and the management hired. Egos come between sensible decision making and ultimately members of the club get hurt. Many clubs have lost their resident managers because members of the board of directors use their egos to make their point and not common sense. Members that face the board of directors with their problems many times leave in frustration only to hear later that because they’re not popular or with enough folks behind them the board has its own agenda and voted against them.
Agendas is the biggest problem facing nudist clubs. Individual members have their own agenda and run for office, or volunteer for committees so they can get their agenda passed. Once their agenda is concluded, they no longer have the interest of the club at heart and fade into the background. If their policy is changed the long term effects to the club can be devastating. At many clubs, the no clothing issue has become the "Agenda" of the last few years. New members do not feel total nudity is necessary. Members should be allowed to wear protective clothing when they deem it necessary. The long standing nude only rules are vanishing from one club after another because new members are dictating the problem with the rules. These members have been able to get clubs to change their total nudity rules and thus have changed the face of social nudism in America.
CAMPING & ACCOMMODATIONS
Camping at nudist clubs is a common site nearly everywhere in America. Parks have various areas set aside for those nudists wanting to spend the night or more at a club. It is always recommended to call ahead to a club to make certain reservations are not necessary. If you must make a reservation to reserve a space, then do so.
There are traditionally four types of camping areas or over night accommodations. The first is dry camping. Spaces for tents or trailers that have no utilities or amenities. Dry camping can be on grass or dirt. Tents will be setup all around the area. These are unmarked spaces and it is first come first served. Tents of different sizes and shapes will be found. Prepare ahead of time for tent camping. Make certain everything to set up the tent is together. Over the years we have seen many folks arrive only to find they were missing the poles to their tent. Also, they forgot another vital part of tent camping. Bring air mattresses or comfortable sleeping pads. A sleeping bag on hard grass or dirt does not make for sound sleeping. Before you use the tent the first time do a test run at home. Go into the front or backyard and set everything up to make certain you’re not missing anything.
Make certain you have pillows and warm coverings for unexpected cold nights. Warm days do not always mean you will have warm nights. Prepare ahead by finding out what the after midnight weather is traditionally where you are going.
Restrooms can be near or far from the camping areas. If you have, small children be prepared for middle of the night runs. Have shoes ready and a flashlight in a place where you can be off quickly. Know your tent and where it is among the others. At busy clubs you may find ten to twenty tents all around you. In the middle of the night you can get confused.
A few extra items that have been found beneficial are: ear plugs, sleeping mask and a pee jug for use at night. A jug with a lid is recommended with a wide mouth. Men and women and young children sometimes find an emergency jug better then running off to the restroom fifty yards away.
At night snoring, talking and other noises from the tens around you can keep you awake. A good set of ear plugs can block out this noise and give you a sound sleep. The bright sunlight in the morning can be filtered with a black sleeping mask available at most drug stores.
If you purchase an air mattress do not forget a pump. Foot pumps are available as well as plug in pumps that work off your car cigarette lighter. Test before you leave home the pump to make certain it fills the bed full and it feels firm.
The second type of camping is camper spaces. Here you can park your car, van, trailer or camper in an area safe from traffic. These areas do not offer hookups and are similar to dry camping and may be a part of the dry camping area. They have scattered tents along with the other mentioned sleeping offerings around. Be careful if you arrive at night for small tents. Drive safely around the dry camp area for somebody’s life is right on the ground.
Find a place for your vehicle or camper and away you go. Some parks offer reserved parking for dry camp and most offer first come first served to a space. Call ahead to see if you need a reservation.
The third type of camping area is hook ups. Here you have electricity, water and sometimes cable or TV available. Some parks offer sewer as part of hookups. Call ahead to make reservations for hook up areas. On busy three day holiday weekend’s hook up areas go very quickly and are sometimes reserved months in advance. Experienced campers know to bring everything necessary for a fun weekend in the sun. Ice is normally available at nudist parks. Sold somewhere on the grounds. Keep all your perishables safe from the heat.
The fourth type of camping is park provided rooms. These can be very small cabins, rental trailers or actual rooms in a building. Larger parks offer many types of sleeping accommodations to cater to foreign travelers and nudists just wanting all the conveniences of home and nothing to bring.
First Class Resorts/Hotels of all types are opening in America to satisfy the new needs of nudists and those wanting a clothing optional lifestyle. Camping rates can vary from club to club. They may offer dry camping free or a nominal charge less than twenty dollars for the night. Check the club’s rates to be prepared. Before you leave make certain, everything is in working order. Hoses rot and gaskets break. Be ready for the unexpected or a trip to the local hardware store.
Camping at nudist clubs allows you to spend the night and be ready for the early morning sun. Don’t forget to plan for meals. Not every club offers breakfast, lunch or dinner. Call ahead before making the drive and discovering the restaurant closed ten minutes earlier and the nearest place off the grounds is twenty miles away. Have an enjoyable camping experience.
RETIREMENT-LIVING AT CLUBS
Retiring or living at a nudist resort/club is one of the little secrets of social nudism. Retirees at nudist resorts have all the amenities available year round to them that weekend visitors find. Swimming pools, hot tubs, tennis courts, horseshoe and shuffleboard. Some clubs have exercise rooms to help keep the arteries free and the weight down.
Depending on the size of the grounds and the buildings permitted will determine the size of the structure allowed. Some parks only have room and zoning for trailers. Others allow larger motor homes, manufactured homes and park size model homes. Square footage can be one hundred up to thousands. The amount of living space varies from club to club so you need to plan the right club to join before purchasing your retirement spot.
Some clubs have immediate space for new members. While others have waiting lists. A few clubs let you bid on an available site and the site owner can make a profit on the sale. Other clubs only allow the site holder to sell the property for the exact amount of money they have invested since ownership began. This controls the amount of the sites and keeps them affordable to everyone. Otherwise investors could come into a club and control the value of individual properties inflating sites beyond the reach of anyone but the super wealthy.
If you belong to a nudist club and are a nudist you likely know the rules of the club and permanent site holders. Most clubs only allow nudists to own on the park land. While some clubs allow non nudist to purchase property. Then there is the loop hole that most clubs have allowed to remain and fail to close up. This is the little secret.
Find a club that you want to join if you are a non-nudist and go to the club in the wintertime. Make certain you go on a very cold day. If it is too cold you will not have to be naked on your tour or visit. After your day at the club go to the office and join as a full member. If the club requires special membership levels to get a site or permanent building join that level. Now ask what the qualifications are to own a place on the grounds. Some clubs have a one time pay figure to get on a site list and receive a number. Check the list of sites available and take a tour of the ones fitting your price range. Find the one you want and purchase it or bid on the site. If your awarded the site or structure your in and you can apply for permanent resident status.
Move into the site or structure and enjoy your retirement. And, you have not even gotten naked once. This is a way many nudists have found to get their parents or relatives into inexpensive retirement. Non-nudist living at a nudist resort. Never once getting naked. They enter the grounds and go directly to their home. They go to places on the grounds open to residents and never have to get naked.
Nudist resorts charge very little per month for residents that own property on the grounds. This varies from club to club. Some of the newer clubs in Florida have condominiums with all the comforts of full resort living. You purchase your condo and pay a monthly maintenance and homeowners fee. Yearly club membership is separate. Anyway you evaluate the cost, it is much lower than the regular retirement homes available in the textile world.
If you are a full time nudist on the weekends and want to retire at your club then you know what to expect. Retired nudists fit all different categories. The neighbor you have today that your friends with may decide to move tomorrow. Your new neighbor may be perfect and then you may have the neighbor from hell. Your dream retirement can be a visit to the mad house. The low monthly rate to live at the club may be outweighed by the problems faced at clubs.
Another problem is the ownership of the land your retirement home is situated. If your club is membership owned then the members and its board determine your rates and benefits awarded site holders. Private resort owners have the power to remove you from their land at a whim. I have seen whole families uprooted in a weekend by a resort manager or owner that no longer wanted the family on the grounds.
Water issues are found at clubs. Noise issues and non approved building. Before a site holder performs any changes to their property they’re at the mercy of the club. Sometimes the simplest request is rejected because of the wrong reason.
So before you retire at a nudist club check out all the problem areas that may make your retirement a trip to hell.
NON-LANDED TRAVEL CLUBS
Non landed clubs or travel clubs are found all over the United States. These are nudist groups that do not have a permanent land facility and must travel to enjoy social nudism. Travel clubs on any given weekend can be found at landed nudist clubs, the beach, the lake, the desert, the mountains or private homes. You can find travel clubs renting the local bowling alley, roller rink or indoor pool for the evening. Social nudist can be very creative in finding places to gather and enjoy the nudist lifestyle.
You will need to talk first to the director or president of the travel club or new members committee. They will tell you what the requirements are to join the club or go to an activity. Be prepared to answer any question asked. All non-landed clubs have bylaws. These bylaws state the way the club will be run. Singles quotas are normally written into the bylaws. The overall word we hear is singles are welcome in a travel club, but have a very hard time getting in. Once the quotas are met, then singles are rejected.
Now that you have passed the initial interviews and have been invited to a weekend activity you need to be prepared. Ask the host of the activity what you need to bring. Most groups have potluck one night of a travel trip. Clubs that have been around for years know what everybody loves to bring to a potluck. The running joke is, "Pete the single guy always brings meatloaf, since thats all he knows how to make." Bring enough water, food and sun protection. If the club is traveling to a nudist club then you will need to call ahead to make certain you will be able to qualify for entrance. Just because your with a travel club does not mean a landed club will let you in for the day or weekend.
We will cover private home meetings to familiarize the first time nudist with what to expect. Nudist that own private homes that can accommodate guests are normally secluded and shielded from prying eyes. You can feel secure that your photograph will not appear on the Internet taken by a neighbor not invited.
You should receive a map directing you to the house. Knock on the door and someone will let you inside. Don’t be surprised if the person opening the door is naked. Tell them who you are and they will invite you inside. Make certain you remember your towel. You will find yourself around naked folks having fun. If you brought a food item place it in the kitchen or on the table where other food is located. You will be shown where the bedroom is located where you can undress. Here you can remove your clothing and get comfortable. Nervousness is common for the first timer. Take your time if you must. Others may arrive and enter the room where your undressing. They will probably whip their clothing off and have them folded before you have time to think about what you’ve gotten yourself into.
I have been to so many private homes where new arrivals just undress in the living room while they are talking to friends that are already naked. True nudist have no problem just getting naked.
Now that your naked its time to join the festivities. You should have a towel with you. Anyplace you sit that is where you will use your towel. Most homes that host nudist parties have a swimming pool. Take a walk outside and don’t be afraid to tell those you meet your new. Within a half an hour you will feel very comfortable in your decision to try social nudism.
Social nudist travel clubs are an excellent way to discover social nudism and making a few calls will soon have you meeting new friends and ending the tension caused by clothing. As with all of social nudism, travel clubs cater to couples. Most clubs have a hard time recruiting couples and the older members want the clubs to stay status quo and find it hard to accept new members.
GETTING INVOLVED-VOLUNTEERING
Nudists are some of the friendliest people in the world. They love to have parties and celebrate events of all types. In every case volunteers are needed to make certain these events are successful. Depending on the event many hours of a volunteers time is necessary to carry off the few hours of the event. Afterwards the volunteer may be mentioned for their hard work and dedication to the club. The club may photograph the volunteer and their picture will appear in the monthly newsletter.
If you like to volunteer for events or necessary jobs that require non paid personnel then do so. If you don’t want to worry of harsh criticism should someone not be happy with the event then do not volunteer. Nudists can be as cruel as anyone in the textile world when they are not satisfied with something related to the event. All your hard work will be wasted because a few did not like something you worked hard to make successful. We have seen time and again the hard work spoiled because of a few nudists that finds fault with everything. If the complaining person or people are well liked in the club then you may find yourself answering to complaints for something related to your event.
The best advice we can give you is rule #1 NEVER VOLUNTEER FOR ANYTHING AT A NUDIST CLUB. rule #2 NEVER VOLUNTEER FOR ANYTHING AT A NUDIST CLUB. If rule number one does not apply then revert to rule number two.
Don’t feel honored when the president of the club asks you to chair a committee. Decline the request and you will sleep better at night. Don’t run for any office at the club or join a group selected to research an important issue. NEVER VOLUNTEER FOR ANYTHING AT A NUDIST CLUB.
Back stabbing is an everyday occurrence at clubs. Hours and hours of hard work are lost when the person that asked you for help does not support you when questions are asked. You become the scapegoat in the name of somebody’s ego being protected. It’s better for you the volunteer to be thrown to the wolves then the owner or manager of the club or group being held accountable. NEVER VOLUNTEER FOR ANYTHING AT A NUDIST CLUB. Follow this rule and you will have a much better enjoyment of social nudism.
SINGLE'S ISSUES
Being single in America is considered by the nudist movement to be outside social nudism. Clubs want men and women to be equal in numbers. Single men visit nudist clubs in far greater numbers then single women. When the ratio of men exceeds a selected percentage, many clubs try and keep single men from joining or even visiting their club.
When the club deems it necessary for any reason, they may begin to accept single men again. Single women in nearly all cases have little problem visiting or joining nudist clubs in America.
Single men at clubs join for various reasons. Meeting single women may be one reason but it is not the main reason. Once accepted for membership, nudist clubs do not care what the reason is for joining as long as the new member does not cause problems.
In surveys of single women at nudist clubs, most results surprise everyone but single men. Single women’s number one complaint at nudist clubs is married men pretending to be single or just hitting on them for sex. Yes, married men causing the problems, not single men. Yet, nudist clubs do not want single men. They want married men, or couples on their grounds.
Singles Organizations have been begun to change the way nudist clubs deal with singles. "Sun Singles" one such group has gained momentum to educate management of clubs that singles have their place at the parks. Single men eventually marry and bring their new wives and future children to the clubs. Single men spend money at clubs, the clubs lifeblood for survival. Singles are what is necessary to keep clubs solvent, yet most clubs will not allow a single male to spend even one day on the grounds.
You may be asking yourself why? Why would the nudist movement be against single males? Its all a numbers game. A game where nudist resorts feel you have to have a balance of gender. Considering the nudist movement is a blue collar majority its easy to see why decisions are made that do not make sense.
We’re not saying that white collar workers are better decision makers. Only that in American business white collar workers make decisions as part of their positions. Blue collar workers are accustomed to receiving information and following up on what they’re ordered to do. In the majority of nudist clubs, blue collar workers retire and then begin to make their way up the ladder of management. These new decision makers have to learn anew how to make quality decisions. And based on how nudist clubs are run today, the decisions are poorly made. Thus, social nudism in America is losing members at a rapid pace. Organizations like the American Association for Nude Recreation has little power regarding the management of individual clubs.
In fact, AANR has hired outside research organizations to find ways to retain members in social nudism and renew their memberships in their organization. The main reason people leave social nudism is stated in the areas discussed on this site. People are just plain fed up with back stabbing management, club politics and members of clubs that ruin the nudist experience for the average nudist.
The single male is faced with trying to understand the intelligence of the reasons for rejection at nudist clubs. We at American Nudist wonder ourselves why an organization like social nudism that is outside the mainstream textile world would be prejudice against any one in American society that wants to try social nudism.
BODY IMAGE
So your body is not perfect. You look in the mirror and see something wrong. You have folds where they shouldn’t be. Your legs are filled with fat. Your buttock is wider than your shoulders. The reflection of your breasts make you feel inadequate compared to women in Playboy Magazine. You see a penis that never passed muster in the locker room in high school. You say to yourself, " I can never go to a nudist club with a body like this. People will laugh when they see my disgusting body."
Take a look around you when you walk down the street in any town in America. What you see is imperfect bodies. The majority of Americans are overweight. They have flab. They have bald heads, beer bellies and folds that are not where they should be. Yes, you will see Americans with perfect bodies on the street. Some of us are lucky to have genes that give us little body fat and a perfect body shape. You can go to the gym and workout to make your body perfect. But talk to any psychologist in America and they will tell you how their patients complain that they cannot get their bodies to be perfect. Nobody ever seems to be satisfied with what they have.
Social nudists come in all shapes and sizes. Walk down the street at any nudist club and you will see the same type of body shape as found on the street in your hometown.
Women not satisfied with the size or shape of their bodies go to plastic surgeons to make themselves more perfect. Go to the beach and you will see women that enhanced their bodies to satisfy their need to be desirable to men. Men and women believe the bigger the breasts the more men pay attention. At nudist clubs you see the tiny incision scars on women that have had breast augmentation or body jewelry added. At textile beaches a woman can hide the fact she has implants. At a nudist club she hides nothing.
Men that have had penis implants and are always erect can be seen at nudist clubs. Men that needed help before Viagra pump up their penises.
You see men with large genitals as well as very small. Men that have had testicular cancer and their penises were removed. These men are nudist and walk around for anyone to see their physical defect. People glance at bodies which is normal at nudist clubs. They don’t stare.
Women that have had breast cancer come and sit around the pool minus a breast or both. Nobody laughs or stares. The human body is not perfect. Everybody has defects of some type. Social nudism is positive in the area of body image. One minute naked among others and you instantly realize that its the textile world that will criticize the body and its defects. Nudists accept that we all have defects and its the inner person that counts not the fantasy perfect body.
CONVENTIONS
Nudist conventions, fall festivals, gatherings or other names relate to fun weekends or a week at a landed club. Different organizations put on conventions at different times of the year at various clubs in the U.S. These meetings have a fee to get into the club for the weekend on top of the clubs regular day rates. Fees generally are under ten dollars for the convention activities.
At the gate you will pay your regular club fee or get in under your club membership. Then you pay the convention fee and receive a tag showing you paid. This tag can be worn on your hat or around your neck. I have quite a collection of convention tags and many fond memories of conventions at clubs I traveled to over the years.
Once inside the club you should find a place to camp and set up your site. Then its time to find the activities and sign up for the events your interested in. Conventions have various activities and tournaments. Tennis, volleyball, water volleyball, horseshoes, shuffleboard, ping pong, tug o’war, swimming and any other activity the club may offer. Prizes are normally provided by the organization sponsoring the convention. You may receive a T-shirt, hat or sweatband for winning with the name of the convention on the item.
During the day you will meet nudists from clubs all around your area as well as those that wanted to travel from distant places. Conventions bring old friends back together to laugh and reminisce about past conventions.
Tables are setup to allow other clubs to present what they offer, as well as individuals that may be offering nudist related merchandise or services. You can purchase books, clothing and jewelry at these tables. So bring plenty of money to help support these folks.
There are activities for the kids all during the day and night at conventions. This is one time when children have activities to keep them busy. With kids coming from different places its a good idea for parents to keep a watchful eye on their children. You know your children but not the children of others from clubs out of your area.
At night the conventions offer various entertainment. Hypnotist and comedians are common as well as bands to allow you to dance the night away. Bands usually play till one in the morning. So make certain you camp away from the sound of the band if you like to go to bed early. If your convention offers, "Fire Walking," Do not do it!
You will find the three or four days to go by very quickly and you will make plenty of new friends at conventions.
NUDE BOATING
Boating in the nude is one of the greatest experiences on Earth. Whether it be a small row boat to a luxurious ocean liner nude boating is marvelous. You can rent a boat for a few days to weeks to cruise a local lake or river. Various states offer nude boating on lakes and cater to the social nudist.
Many nudist clubs post boats that are available for nude sailing around their areas. You can find boats for lease in the AANR Bulletin monthly newspaper. Or you can call nudist geared travel agencies as those listed in "Finding A Resort" in our site directory.
The only difference between nude sailing and textile sailing is the lack of material causing tan lines. Women do not have to unstrap their brassier to get a total tan on their backs. There is nothing nicer than a all around tan.
Make certain if you’re going to rent a boat that nude sailing is legal or permitted in the area you will be sailing. Nothing can ruin a vacation faster then a ticket to appear before a judge on indecency charges.
You will find couples renting lake boats or sailing ships and enjoying the vacation with something in common. With the barrier of clothing gone, vacations can be more enjoyable with many nudist splitting the cost of the trip.
More and more nude cruises are now available through some of the major cruise lines. Travel agencies like Bare-Necessities book the entire ship for a nude cruise. During the day nudity is found all around the ship except in the food areas. At night its party time and clothing is expected. The crew on nude cruises wear clothing while the naked passengers are catered to in first class ways. Ships offer gambling and the typical cruise line activities. The ships stop at various ports of call for day trips. Many ship stop so you can nude jet ski or parasail. Check out what the tour offers before you go to make certain it is what you want on your vacation. If your a non-smoker and hate the smell of cigaretts then you will have a miserable time on a nude boat.
Get naked and have a ball on your nude cruise.
The Bare Necessities Nude Millennium Cruise is now a week old memory. The trip began from Port Manatee near Tampa, Florida on December 26, 1999 and concluded on January 2, 2000. I was one of the hundreds of nude cruisers to take part in the event of the New Millennium. Royal Cruises was the cruise line sailing this special trip on the Royal Empress. The ship accommodated 900 passengers and approximately 280 crew. At the terminal U.S. Customs agents walked their drug sniffing dogs around the baggage. Hand luggage were also randomly searched. When the dog detected something in a handbag, all eyes studied whether a passenger would be busted before even getting onboard. Nothing was found and the bag was returned without further incident.
Finally, the passengers were permitted to board the ship by three o'clock in the afternoon. By six the ship was outside the bay and on its way to Jamaica. Once outside the bay we were permitted to get naked. As the weather was quite nippy, few brave souls went totally nude. Inside and outside the ship you would get a quick glimpse of the nature of this cruise. This was a nudist cruise. Clothing optional as the brochure stated. The crew was not permitted to get naked, or the entertainers. Occasionally you might spot a young female entertainer on the sundeck sans a bathing top.
My cabin was set up for two. Two single beds rested against the outer walls. A small bathroom contained a toilet, sink and shower. Other rooms were lucky to have larger beds, bunk beds or one queen bed. The internal air ducts moved the air around the room. I found the air was constantly flowing and even turning off the overhead controls made little effect on the cooling system. Overall I must say the rooms I saw were nice and comfortable for a ship of this size and age. True nudists only sleep in their rooms and spend the majority of the time outside on the sun decks. Nude cruises are for anybody whether a couple or traveling with friends or as a single. Personally I planed this trip as a couple and only found myself traveling as a single two months before the cruise. Of the entire ship of 900 possible passengers there was roughly a dozen single men and an equal number of single women. My numbers may be off by a few. The majority of cabins were couples enjoying time away from family and friends. They say love can be found onboard cruise ships and many singles plan on finding a ship board fling to remember the cruise by. I can say that I saw plenty of ship board romance whether from couples or singles just finding the sea air loaded with the hormone of love. And I never saw anyone having sex or going beyond normal nudism behavior.
The following morning I found the outside café. The weather was warm enough to go naked. Some folks seemed to forget this was a nude cruise and arrived for breakfast in standard textile world clothes. Shorts, T-shirts and sweats. I arrived totally naked, ready for my first real day away from home and enjoying what I cherish most. Soaking up the sun sans clothes. The food onboard the ship was excellent. Whether eating in the outside café or indoors in the formal restaurant (clothes required) you were welcomed by the crew with smiles and top notch service.
What became apparent by nine in the morning was the lack of chaise lounges. This was the second cruise for this ship and I heard the problem was found on the first nude cruise. Before anybody schedules another nude cruise they have to make certain the ship owners provide at least one chaise lounge for every passenger. For a while I thought there would be fights over chairs. Only on nude cruises do you find the majority of passengers actually in the sun. Most cruise ships find the passengers gambling, playing bingo or relaxing on the ship away from the sun. If the travel agencies are going to take our money, then they should guarantee we will have a comfortable chaise lounge. If I want the lack of a chair I can always go to my club back home. This is the number one complaint I heard from fellow passengers. The second complaint was the lack of non-smoking areas. It seems Bare Necessities along with nearly all nudist clubs cater to the nudist smoker. It was difficult to find anyplace on board this ship to get away from the evil smell of tobacco. Cigars and pipes were in vogue nearly everywhere for the entire cruise. I personally will never take another nude cruise which permits smoking. One of the large cruise lines in Cozumel, Mexico had a ship that was entirely non-smoking. So it seems somebody out in the real world understands the needs of non-smokers. Other onboard non-smokers stated their feelings about taking another cruise that permits smoking.
Waiters came around all day and night peddling their expensive drinks. I tried various wines, champagne, mamosa's and Pina coladas. Some were right on the mark and others had much to be desired. The crew makes their money off of tips. Every drink was sure to have an added on gratuity. Nudists onboard needed to carry a ship credit card. This was not taken well by many, since nudists tend not to carry purses or other garments to hold the tiny card. Some passengers held the card on chains around their necks while others found alternative means.
Just when you do find a chair you can be assured somebody will light up a cigarette or cigar that will find its way to your space. The looks of frustration on the faces of others around communicate the dissatisfaction with the problem. When will somebody in the nudist world get a clue that non-smokers want rights and if they're going to spend money for trips they do not want tobacco smoke destroying their vacations? My goal after this cruise is to begin non-smoking trips for nudists. If your interested please send me an email or leave a message in the guestbook.
The sun came out nearly everyday of the trip and this brought joy to the faces of those that found a place in the sun. It did not take long for my body to begin to change color. By the second day, a few folks that forgot their sunscreen could be seen stopping traffic with their red bodies. Time passed quickly on the ship. Food, music, games went on outside and inside the ship. Soon the crew discovered that nudists love to drink and play very little bingo or gamble. By the end of the cruise the alcohol consumption tab broke nearly all records for this cruise line.
On the third day of the cruise a upper respiratory virus struck half the ship. The infirmary on one day saw over four hundred sick souls. With the average medical bill running over a hundred dollars. This was an unfortunate incident for those that finally found themselves celebrating the Millennium. I wonder how many complaints there would have been if these folks did not get sick. For so many spent the cruise in their cabins, they would have flooded the sun decks and there would have been fewer chairs.
I spoke to senior members of the crew and they stated they have tried to offer solutions to the problems I have mentioned above. Unfortunately, they have found that passengers feel they have a right to do anything they wish. If they want to smoke then they believe they have a right to smoke and nobody is going to tell them they cannot. The ship has placed non-smoking signs only to find them vandalized by passengers. It seems the airlines used to have this problem, now it is not a problem with some stiff penalties to violators. So, unless the travel agencies booking the cruise make the entire cruise non-smoking, mixing the two factions will not work. Even the rooms that were designated non-smoking found smoke drifting from other rooms where guests did not care about the designation of non-smoking on this deck. Quite frankly the problem is that nudists smokers do not give a damn about the effects of their addiction. And the nudist movement supports the smoker and not the concerns of the non-smoker.
The ship docked on Wednesday in Montego Bay, Jamaica. Those onboard that booked tours departed to their busses for the tour they paid for. My first request was filled and I was forced to select an alternative tour of the island. My bus drove us twenty to Rose House the former home of a woman the killed three husbands and it is believed the house is haunted. After the house tour we drove into town for some shopping. Jamaican rum, clothing and jewelry were purchased at guaranteed bargain prices. Soon, we were all on board the bus and returned to the ship. On the ship it's important to book your tour quickly or you will miss out.
By night time the ship pulled out of port and again we were on our way to Cozumel, Mexico for New Years day. Everyday was spent enjoying the sun, eating in the restaurants and being entertained by the onboard staff or fellow passengers. This cruise there was a Broadway musical extravaganza by talented singers. A magician and a Latin singer. Fellow passengers put on a talent show and a musical lip sinc display that brought plenty of applauds and available video tapes of performances. During the day you could take dance lessons, aerobics and yoga lessons. The ship offered nearly something for everybody.
The ship docked in Cozumel, Mexico. This is an island tourist spot. The island was the home of Mayan Indians that believed fertility and deforming the skull was what life on Earth was all about. The beach that we were directed to was beautiful with clear warm water. A section was set aside for those that wished to go nude. The only problem was the time allocated. Ten minutes in the sun and water is just not enough time to enjoy anything as wonderful as Cozumel. Soon our bus returned us to the ship. The Mexican farmacia (pharmacy) near the dock was the most visited spot on the island.
Just in time for New Years, the ship pulled out to the ocean for our Millennium bash that we were all waiting to arrive. At first formal outfits were appearing on the sundecks. Photographs were being taken of those nudists that brought tuxedo's and formal gowns. After the pictures and by nine in the evening the textile world garb vanished and true nudists outfits appeared. Naked bodies in all forms of attire covered the space around tables. The crew members stood in shock at the sight before them. Not even New Orleans Martigra could compete with the outfits selected for the Millennium. Only nudists know how to put on a party. Drinks, favors and fun was being felt by all. Flash bulbs went off as often as the crew members gasps. It was truly a sight to behold. Now all that waited was the midnight hour and the arrival of a new century.
At the close of this century the ship began to get the New Year bug in the air. The brochure said that at the stroke of midnight this would be the largest gathering of naked folks celebrating the event. At midnight some people removed their costumes or clothes. It was not as promoted. It was fun to be on this cruise and be a part of something different at the turn of the clock and century. Since I had plenty to drink, my memory is not completely clear.
On January 1, 2000 we cruised back to Tampa and on Sunday in the morning the ship arrived back at the Port of Manatee and we disembarked. Some of us boarded buses back to Paradise Lakes. Others hailed cabs to the airport and most of us said our final farewells before heading home other ways. I survived the Millennium Nude Cruise without getting sick and have to say that besides those problems mentioned above, the cruise was worth it and I can always say, "I was on the Nude Millennium Cruise!"
WOMEN'S ISSUES
Why are women afraid to go to nudist clubs, the beach or hot tubbing at some friends? Answer this question and you will make social nudism packed with women. Once a woman tries social nudism she usually returns time and again. Unless she has had a very bad experience with social nudism.
Women’s issues can cover every aspect of being a woman. We have monthly periods. We have stretch marks from child birth. Varicose veins and scars of living in a man’s world. Why would we want to expose ourselves to men? Why would we want our inner and outer souls exposed just for the sake of a man’s wanton thoughts? Perhaps this is why women avoid social nudism.
I met a woman in her middle forties in the hot tub a few weeks ago. As we sat alone soaking up the serenity of the moment, she told me about her experience with social nudism. Her boyfriend tried in vain to get her to come out to the club. Finally, she consented if she would not have to get naked. Her boyfriend drove her into the club, bypassing the office and they parked the motor home away from the main camping areas. Sheila related that she was reluctant to step outside the motor home naked. She finally put a towel around her naked body and made the plunge. No one was around except her boyfriend. He waited outside naked as a jaybird with a big grin on his face. Sheila immediately sat in a chair and let her breasts become exposed from the towel. For the first time since childhood, her breasts felt the warmth of the sun.
That day she refused to walk to the recreation area and only saw a couple of people walking naked. Two weeks later she returned with her boyfriend. This time she walked to the recreation area wearing a towel wrapped around her body. Sitting on the grass alone while her boyfriend went off to buy a case of beer, a man approached her and told her that she was supposed to be naked in the recreation area. Her towel wrapped around her body was not allowed. When her boyfriend came back, she told him what the man said. The boyfriend said that he had no right telling her to be naked. Only management of the club had that right.
Sheila still returned to the club a week later. This time she walked around the grounds with her breasts exposed and her lower body covered by a towel. Slowly she was accepting social nudism.
Then on the sixth visit her boyfriend invited a male he met in the hot tub to come to their motor home. Sheila learned that Tom the guest gave full body massages and would give her one. Sheila did not know how to respond, but laid down on the bed and allowed Tom to massage her body. After a half hour Tom moved near Sheila’s head and his penis began to rub her head. She opened her eyes to discover his excitement. The boyfriend sat watching her reaction. He said, "Sheila, I invited Tom over to have sex with you. I want to watch!"
Sheila was stunned. Before she could say no, Tom was having sex with her. The boyfriend thanked Tom when they were finished and he left. Sheila felt dirty. In all her life she would never have imagined this to happen. Soon her boyfriend had taken control of her life and she fell victim to a domineering male. At the nudist club her boyfriend pointed out all the people he knew were swingers. He would constantly ask her what man or woman she wanted to have sex with? In the weeks that followed them they occasionally went to sex clubs until Sheila met a man at work that could get her away from this domineering man.
Women at nudist clubs are subject to all forms of social behavior. Women just have to learn to say, "NO!"
Women are allowed on their period to wear shorts, a bikini brief or whatever suits them. You will see tampon strings dangling if the woman does not wish to cover up. Social nudist understand the pains women go through monthly.
A common site at clubs is no pubic hair or very little. Avoiding rash is the most asked question. Some women shave the area with shaving cream and a razor. Others use hair removal cream or jell on a regular basis. You have to test various brands until you find one that works best for you. Hair regrowth can begin in a few days and cause problems. You have to decide that you remove the pubic hair daily or weekly to prevent body irritation. Do not wear panties after removing your pubic hair. Use body oil, cream with Vitamin-E on a daily basis. As often as six times a day to keep the area softened to prevent rash or itching. When the area is accustomed to the lack of hair, you can begin to wear panties again. Panties create an environment for sweating in the pubic area and this causes rash.
WORKING AT CLUBS
Do you need a job? Consider working at a nudist resort/club. Its year round work keeping the park functioning from grounds maintenance, restaurants, office, security to janitorial. The larger the park the more employees you will find. Small clubs may have as few as one full time employee and more depending on the club membership and work necessary to keep the park in working shape. Salaries may be minimumwage to higher amounts depending on experience and work areas the employee is capable of completing. Many parks offer employees living quarters. These can be trailers to park model homes. Most workers are required to be dressed while working. During off duty hours they are free to roam the park and utilize all the facilities available. Working at a nudist club can truly be a dream job. It all depends on the management and job duties as to whether your club offers you daily pleasure in your job. At one club I learned of three marriages between employees. The office girls married the maintenance men and thus far their marriages are made in heaven. Most parks require the employees to take a tour in the nude and then they are free to decide after receiving the job whether they wish to continue being nudists when off work.
THE FINAL STEP
Well you made it to our site. WHY ARE YOU INTERESTED IN SOCIAL NUDISM? Perhaps you are fascinated with the thought of seeing naked people? A friend wants you to go to a nude beach? Social nudism has always seemed like something worth trying? Your husband wants to go to a nudist club? Your wife wants to go to a nudist club? Your boyfriend or girlfriend wants to try social nudism? Your son or daughter has friends that are nudist and they want to go on a weekend with them? Your nearing retirement and heard that nudist clubs are inexpensive and offer activities for the elderly? Your a sexual swinger and want to recruit others to your group? Your looking for something different to do on weekends? Your life is boring living in your Christian controlled world and think its time to see what others do on weekends? You heard your minister is a nudist and you want to see for yourself. You heard your priest is a nudist and you want to see for yourself?
You have reasons why not to try social nudism. The first is you don’t want to have other men seeing your wife naked. You believe that her nakedness is only for your eyes. You don’t want other women seeing your husband or boyfriend naked and knowing what he has below the waist. Your body is not perfect and know others will laugh at you when they see you naked. You’ve heard that nudist all have sex on the grass and you wouldn’t want to have to see others having sex in the open. You heard all nudist are swingers and you do not want to take part in group sex. You sunburn easily. Your feet are ugly. Your breasts are too big. Your breast are too small. Your penis is small. Your penis is too big. You think you will get an erection when you see naked women. You always get an erection when you think about naked women. You could never imagine other people seeing you naked. Only your doctor and spouse have seen you naked as an adult. The bible says social nudism is a sin. Your pastor says social nudism is a sin. Your mother and father say social nudism is a sin. All social nudist are perverts. All social nudists like looking at naked bodies of little children. Men just want to gawk at naked women. Women just want to gawk at naked men. You don’t want your children seeing their parents naked. As a parent you don’t want others seeing your children naked. You would be embarrassed if your friends found out you went to a nudist club/colony.
We have heard every reason why people do not ever try social nudism This website tells you that everything that you may have heard can take place at nudist clubs. Just like in the outside textile world, social behavior teeters on the taste of the individual. Washington congressmen and their wives having sex in front of monuments. Presidents engaged with interns in the Oval Office. Men and women streaking at events. You have heard about it all over the last hundred years.
Try social nudism once and see for yourself whether its worth trying again and again. You now know what goes on behind the fence, so it won’t be a surprise to you when it occurs and you will have a much better experience.
December 7, 2000: AANR sent out it's first in full color monthly magazine. This one-time issue instead of its traditional newspaper format. The laugh of the minute in this premier issue has to be this years pick for, "Family of the Year." Talk about Cronyism! The selection commitee selected the Executive Director of AANR and his family. The Schuttauf's were selected among the thousands of families that pay monthly dues to be AANR members. This one family fits in the less then "one percent" demographics of AANR membership. Mr. Erich Schuttauf is an attorney. A father with three very young children. A wife that home schools the children. We at AmericanNudist have to ask, "Why?" Why was this family selected instead of the hundreds of potential families of the year? Cronyism?, or just a failure to look beyond the photogenic. It would be wonderful to see the family that has struggled with its teenager's rejection of nudism, the single parent who must cope with a former spouses rejection of the nudist lifestyle, the widower or divorcee who has been embraced by their nudist "family", rather than being tossed for the sin of being unmarried. Its not that the Schuttauf's family is bad, its that it is rare. It would be nice if AANR would be a little less self-congratulatory and a little more in touch with its members. Could it be that Mr. Schuttauf runs an organization made up of idiots and simple minded followers that are examples of why Social Nudism in America is losing members at landed clubs? We at AmericanNudist feel its time for social nudist in America to take a second look at AANR and protest its lack of judgement in its decision making policies and not addressing the problems mentioned in "This page."